"You are Blessed"

`Am I though, there is not a day that passes by where I hear those three magic words. The words that warm your heart and bring up all the fuzzy feelings. I shyly say "Thank you" and go about my day but when I'm told I'm blessed I can't help but smirk and think "If you only knew" Inside I think of the messes, the number of diapers, the crying, the sticky hands because of the formula gets everywhere!.

Not to mention the mom brain that bears down on me daily. It is a mess, it is no easy feat and to be honest, there isn't a day that passes by where I think "Is this really how my life turned out", "Is this really for me?" Here's a good one for you. "Can I do this for the rest of my life?" They say that surviving the first year with twins takes great strength, 8 months in and I'm wishing they were independent! *Laughs* It's hard to see the humor I know. I'm not saying that I regret my children, I am in no way saying they are unloved or unwanted they are simply something different, and that something different may never see its way into the habitual category as each day packs on something new. When you think you have it down, they switch it up! I'm telling you, twins switch personalities, that "twinning" thing. Yeah, that is definitely real and Mama is ready for a break.

It's not that I dislike the "You are blessed" comments that random strangers seem to dish out it's just I've heard it so many times. Along with "Are they twins?" Here's a good one, when you hear "You are blessed" and then two aisles over you get the favorite " I pity You" comment. Lady, do you know what you just said. Clearly, "It's better me than you" cause if you are going to through pity on me for the miraculous thing my body did then shame on you. whether twins are some divine intervention from above and God says "Let's bless her womb" Don't ever say you pity someone, why would it even come to that. You are not in my home to see the smiles, the giggles, the friendship and bond that twins created. I'm watching two personalities come to life. I may not like it at times but mom mode will kick your butt for the cruel things you say.

Thinking before you speak is the best policy to learn, stick and stones can break bones but words do leave a lasting impression. I can't express how much of what is said to me or my family is hurtful. I have 3 sons, no daughters and the rudeness doesn't stop there " 3 boys, oh no girls for you then huh?" or the assumption that I am "fixed" and not having more. Round 3 of the assumption game and I'm still here and intact. *Gasps* because its a crime, may I will have more babies, maybe I won't but I'm keeping my parts intact. Thanks ;)

The human race is such an amazingly horrid species, you cannot win for losing with them.

I'm probably not the only Mom to think this but once you have children it seems that everyone thinks that you are fair game to pick on and I don't mean 3rd grade " cooties" I mean that they all are opinionated jerks on this and that in your life and sure know how to lower self-esteem. Look here, I do not walk into your workplace and boss you around, so all fair in love and war. Come to me, I'll come back at you.

"You are Blessed": Maybe I am, Maybe I'm not. I can be the judge of that.

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