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The pressure to BE you.

Yeah, I said that as a title because we talk about the pressure to conform or complete a task and are always confronted with witless banter and ways to enhance behaviours but it is rarely talked about that there are pressures when it comes to being ourselves.

What?! I know you would think it's quite easy to stop acting a fool and just be you but not everything is as it seems because you may have family breathing down your neck, a boss that wants to see if you're ready for a higher up position. So your strained you want to be you but then again you really want that job because it offers amazing benefits and you might have that one Aunt that is "holier than though" so in a way you are pressured to live up to expectations.

Trust me, I've been there and although I say Dare to be different and be yourself. Well, I truly mean it. If family out of all people can't accept you for you and the choices you make cut them off because they are offering nothing but added pressure. There is too much of it already in our lives.
Hypothetically, If the dream job that you chase is so important your boss shouldn't expect change but appreciate the talents that you bring to the table and even possible business ideas for the future.

It is a constant strain, a fight within ourselves to be subjected to these pressures but I reassure you that an in between is possible, always and I implore you to always be yourself. The goofy, the weird all of it. Like I sad before NO Stepford's here. If you believe in a higher power and in a way I do, you would believe that we were given our unique personalities to make life interesting and that we were designed as individuals. so screw the expectations because even though the in between will always be hovering over us we take control and "dare to be individual"

That could be a slogan! Just trying to keep everyone on a positive note, even though a New Year may mean "New things" it doesn't mean that we will keep that momentum.


Thanks guys
Madye:)

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